The Qualities of A Man You Should Marry
Meeting a good man and growing in love with him seems to be difficult nowadays. With all the stories of infidelity, abuse, lies and deception in relationship we cannot blame the single ladies in being very cautious and hesitate when it comes to trusting a man. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and we want to remain faithful to that commitment.
Even though there is a shortage, rest assures there are still a lot of men who are good and kind-hearted enough to be an ideal husband. In fact no one is perfect and both husbands and wives make mistakes but they can both still change for the better.
The only way to ensure a healthy and successful marriage is to turn to God and make Him the center of your relationship. And if you are still a single lady waiting for that special man to spend the rest of your life with, the Bible is here to guide you.
The word of God teaches you what to look for in a man whom you should marry and build a happy family with. I have pulled out 10 qualities of a good husband according to the Bible that you should be able to help you out.
1. Independent “But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;” – Mark 10:6-7 KJV
The Bible directly tells the man to leave is parents and cleaves to his wife. A man doesn’t have to be a millionaire to provide a place for his family to dwell. However, there is a specific reason why the Bible suggests that a man leaves his parents home to begin a new life with his family. A new family needs privacy a place where the two can feel free to grow together without the influence of family members of your partner.
2. Affectionate towards you
“Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:3 NKJV
As the females, we are wired to need affection. To be honest, no woman wants to be in a relationship with someone who does not show her the same love and concern she shows him.
3. Loyal and Committed “The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” 1 Corinthians 7:4 NIV
Would you want a man to lead you that is not loyal or committed to you? No way! A husband must show loyalty to the woman he loves and commitment to the bond and relationship they share.
4. A Leader “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” – Ephesians 5:22-23 KJV
A leader is one who makes decisions, takes responsibility and steps forward to see what needs to be done. And if the man you are dating refuses to make any decisions or take any responsibility, then he is not leading.
5. He is Trusting ? “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” – Proverbs 31:10-11 KJV
Your potential husband should feel free to trust and confide in you. Are you trustworthy? Does he trust you, or is he very secretive about the things that concern him? The man you marry must be able to trust your decisions that you will bring growth to the family. He should not only be a great leader but one who trusts you and is confident in you.
6. He Has Self-Love
Can I tell you that if a man does not love himself or has no self value, he will not be able to value you. A man who has self –worth is what you should be desiring in a husband.
7. He Appreciates You “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” – Proverbs 31:28 KJV
Your husband should be a man that is grateful and appreciative of the woman that he has in you. If he doesn’t make you feel appreciated for what you bring to the union, you will eventually loose self-confidence and feel insecure about yourself. Needless to say, it will lead to a breakdown in communication and in the growth of the relationship.
8. He is Godly & Spiritual
“And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy. I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.” – Hosea 2:19-20 ESV
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.” – Galatians 5:22-23 KJV
By know means to I suggest that your husband should be like he is Peter or Jesus, but rather a kingdom man one who is sensitive to the voice of God and governs himself and his family by Biblical principles and instructions.
If you want a family that is blessed by God you need a husband that will lead you closer to God and not away from him.
9. Selflessness and Self Sacrificing “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.” – Colossians 3:19 KJV
You want your partner to be one who considered you above himself. The Bible defines love in this way. Sis, if your potential guy is selfish and self centered, boo run! No need to waste time there.
10. Shows True love “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good.” – Romans 12:9 ESV
“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18 KJV
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV
So many people say the words, ‘I Love you’ but have no real understanding of the meaning of true love. A husband is commanded in the Bible to love his wife the way Christ loved the church. Now this my sister is harder for the guys than it sounds.
Christ sacrificed himself to do for you what you could not do for yourself. Out of love he sanctified you to God’s purposes by setting you apart so you could live the life God created you to live. Out of love, he purified you, so you were able to put aside the sin that hinders you and instead live in his righteousness. He did this by the word of the gospel and through it all has a great and final purpose in mind. This is how Christ loved the church, so this is how a husband is to love you. He is to sacrifice all that he has for you. Love you with a sanctifying love that is committed to setting you apart for the purpose God has for you. He is to Love you with a purifying love that helps you to move away from sin and to live righteously. He is to love you with a purposeful love that focuses on the day when you will be all that God has created you to be. He is to do all of this by washing you with the water of the gospel. In marriage, your husband should be willing to read the Bible and pray with you, making this a daily discipline.
In Conclusion, a good husband is indeed difficult to find. But no matter how hard it is, ladies be patient and faithful enough to wait for the right one. Take note that marriage is the union of two persons who will start a new significant chapter of their lives. It is also the beginning of building a family. Therefore, you should not only think of yourself but also consider the future of your children and your husband.
So look for the qualities above and do not forget to get yourself ready to be a good wife. As a woman of God, you also have to have the traits of a good wife within you.